Real strength…

…means being able to admit you were wrong.

…means being as happy for others’ successes as you are for your own.

…is allowing yourself to be vulnerable.

…means giving more credit than you take.

…means saying more with your actions than you do with your words.

…is liking yourself despite all of your imperfections.

…is never allowing others to determine what’s possible for your life.

…is choosing happiness instead of waiting for it.

…is believing you can when others say you can’t.

…means using every experience as an opportunity to learn & grow.

…is not needing to be the loudest voice in the room.

…means respecting the disrespectful.

…is recognizing when your ego is taking over.

…means trusting people’s intentions.

…means believing in your greatness without needing to prove it to others.

…is about being grateful for what you are instead of desperate for what you are not.


What does “real strength” mean to you?


11 thoughts on “Real strength…

    • Strength to me is somewhat unmeasurable. All people can be strong for a number of different reasons. You could be strong from something specific that you have been through in your individual lifetime. You could be strong for a medical reason, a survivor of cancer, or a medical disorder. You could be physically strong, or spiritually strong. Strength to me is the one thing that makes you special, makes you stand up and stand out. Strength is something that makes you a better person, teacher, friend, or neighbor.

  1. … is asking how you can help instead of doing what you want to do.
    … is expecting the best of people, then giving them space to be that.
    … is to sit quietly, in the discomfort of your emotions, and be truly honest with yourself.

  2. There’s something I notice about strength. My concept of what it is is changing – slowly. Many times, people have told me I’m strong, usually about something that I thought was weakness or failure.

    To feel these intense emotions that I struggle with – actually takes strength of will and vulnerability.
    To share what I’m feeling, out in the open, for all to see – doesn’t make me weak or crazy. It’s a conscious decision I make in order to a) be honest and authentic, and b) invite others to share their feelings as well.
    To say “I don’t know” and truly hold my mind and heart open to hearing feedback from others – sometimes takes all the strength that I have, mostly to hold back the fear that wants to jump up and slam the door!

    I believe it’s still much more the norm in our society to experience emotions, vulnerability, failure, mistakes, not knowing the answer, etc… as weakness. Particularly as a leader – there are expectations and ideals, models of “strength” that are outdated and no longer effective (if they ever truly were?)

    It takes strength to question everything – every reflex and assumption, every “should” or “have to” message roaming around in our heads. Yet, that’s exactly what we have to do. It’s quite a journey, isn’t it?

  3. Real strength is something that everyone has whether they know it or not. Real strength is holding on when you have every reason to give up. Although, the wrong choice is what everyone else is doing, the right choice is where real strength lies. Finding your strength may happen at different times in everyone’s lives for me it didn’t happen until I was twenty years old. I had to let myself realize to live for what I wanted and not to please my parents. I had to find my courage and stand up for what I believed, in and that is when I realized I have strength and a voice.

    I think that strength is that little push or motivation we all have that keeps us going. I may be wrong but I never look at the small steps towards a goal . I keep my eyes right on the end result. I think strength allows me to never give up, and gives me such high hopes for graduation, finding the one, or even raising a family. I love the list you have created on this topic !

  4. I believe 100% in this blog post, leadership matter, that is immensely true. Even if you are not a “follower” there will always be someone who looks up to you and mimics your beliefs and behaviors. Especially for us as educators, and myself in particular as a mother. If you try to tell a group of elementary children not to say words that they hear you say, they will think that is behavior is acceptable, and mimic it. ACTIONS speak volumes more than words ever will. I see this effect at home with my own daughter. She says things everyday that sound like me, more and more. Usually it is O.K. things such as big words that she does not know the meaning of. For instance today she said,”Mommy, Marley(our dog) is not cooperating.” This made me laugh because she is four and hardly believe she knows what that word means. Earlier in the day I said, ” Riley, please cooperate with me!” This situation of following was O.K. Had I said a curse word and she followed my lead, that would have been a result of ineffective leadership. I think that our president(s) sometimes are prime examples of ineffective leadership. They represent our country, yet term after term we watch out nations leaders devalue their position of power with mistakes they make or scandals they get wrapped up in. This is ineffective leadership at it’s finest. This is such a valuable post that everyone could learn or revisit from time to time.To be a follower you have to Trust your Leader. And to be a valuable leader you have to be a credible human being. Credibility is a huge part of our character, as people and as teachers. As a teacher especially your students’ parents are putting their trust to educate their children in your very hands. At that moment you have to decide are you trustworthy, and credible? Are you worthy of teaching, or are you an ineffective leader? This made me think twice- no! Three times about the way I act, think and handle myself personally, socially, and in the work place.

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